Why men have affairs?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, finances, age difference, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married date.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I suppose mostly though it is only the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody can turn the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos people has erected against affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anybody else? You would need to reduce the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, gigantic really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your funds are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the man is sexually neglecting his spouse for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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